From a recent Yomiuri Online advice column:
I am one of three sisters. My younger sister, who lives at home with our mother, began talking about marrying a foreigner after reading "Darling wa Gaikokujin" a year ago. Now she fills her days with visits to establishments patronized by foreigners, making plans to study abroad, and English lessons. I don't think international marriages are a bad thing, but I really want to tell her to consider her widowed mother and two sisters! She keeps saying that once she gets married, she'll sell the house and take our mother to relocate with her and her future husband abroad. When our mother got wind of this and refused, my sister said "you two take care of her here, then."
I told her I didn't mind looking after our mother, but that it was something I needed to discuss with my husband, so please don't make any unilateral decisions. She just laughed: "That's old-fashioned. This isn't the era of staying in Japan. Plenty of people spend their retirement years abroad. America's an advanced nation. Don't worry about it."
My mother is dead set against going abroad but my sister is convinced she's happy about it. She's spent all her money on English classes and doesn't have a yen saved to her name. The only foreigners she's interested in meeting are tall, wealthy caucasians from first-world nations. Since she thinks she won't have any worries in the future she says it's okay to spend everything she has now. Yet she complains she can't make the mortgage and food payments.
I think she's being unrealistic, but she is convinced she's modern and civilized. What should I do?